Photo by Alexey Kuzma, via Stocksy. Often overlooked in these sexy guides, however, is the simple and incredibly effective technique known as edging. Not to be confused with the lawn-maintenance term that also bears its name, edging is a technique for bringing yourself or others, or all of you together! Do this enough times and your body will become a giant, pulsating nerve of sensation; and your orgasm, if and when you are brought over that edge, will be that much more intense and powerful. It also can and is used as a technique to help those with penises gain better control of their ejaculation. Fun fact!
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But how often do we hear the nitty-gritty of how we can actually better understand our deepest desires and most embarrassing questions? Bustle has enlisted Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist , to help us out with the details. No gender, sexual orientation, or question is off limits, and all questions will remain anonymous. I've vaguely heard of it before, but I don't know how it actually works. I would love step-by-step instructions for how to try orgasm control for the first time.
At first, I remember thinking:. Now, for those of you who have had the chance to read and watch my feature about lasting longer in bed, you may notice something strange:. The idea of being able to finish on command is taking a lot of the ideas I wrote about before and flipping them on their heads. The counter to this, then, is that shorter sex can be fun and convenient — but it may not be fulfilling for everyone involved. I know this can get kind of confusing, so if you want to know how to give a woman the kind of sex she craves, just check out this cool little video.
Sometimes referred to as orgasm control or climax manipulation, edging is the practice of purposefully delaying your orgasm to maintain a higher level of arousal for an extended period of time, often to heighten your pleasure when you do orgasm. There are a number of ways to actually practice edging, including different techniques and exercises, but the gist of it is this: when you feel an orgasm coming on, try to avoid it by lessening or stopping stimulation. Some of our customers have found that using the Lioness Vibrator is the perfect tool to hone in their climax control skills and literally bring their orgasms to the next level.